As many of you know, I am dedicated to Wóden. I have been since about 1989 when I had a dream in which he came to me and gave me a tour of the Nine Worlds. Whether this actually happened or was just a figment of my imagination I do not know. I did count it as significant though, significant enough that I dedicated myself to him. I do not consider him my patron. I do not think gods and goddesses serve as patrons these days. There is not enough evidence to suggest this. Still, I feel that I have had a sometimes close relationship with him. Early on I made regular offerings to Wóden. These were almost always libations of mead, although sometimes I offered necklaces and other such items. My worship of Wóden was closely related to my study of the runes which in the first few years of my being Heathen played a big role in my practice.
Over the years my relationship with Wóden changed. At first, I naively expected him to answer my every prayer. What I found was it was very rare, very, very rare that he would intercede in my life. Usually, it was for the big things, a new job, a new relationship (when I was younger I could not stand to be alone). Even then such intervention was rare even though when it did occur it was for the things that would affect my life in a major way. Over time from these things becoming sour I would blame Wóden, and I began to withdraw from him. Then at some point when I was studying the goddess Fríge I came upon the tale of the naming of the Lombards in the Historia Langobardum. The Lombards were about to enter into a battle with the Vandals. The Vandals had made offerings to Wóden and had been granted victory. The Winnilie as the Lombards were then called had made offerings to Wóden, but to no avail. They then offered to Fríge. She told them at sunrise to go out with their women, and have them pull their hair in front of their faces to make it appear as though they had beards. She then turned Wóden’s bed so he faced them. Upon awaking in the morning he saw the Winnilie, and said “Who are these long beards?” Frí’ge responded, “Now that you have named them, you must grant them victory.” Thus the Lombards were named, and they won the battle. This tale taught me one important thing. To work with Wóden you must also work with Fríge. From that time I have always made regular offerings to Fríge when I offer to Wóden. I have found that my relationship with Wóden has been much better because of that.
I still pray to Wóden regularly though it is rare I make offerings to him. I think the gods and goddesses really do not take notice of individuals. I think they are more focused on communities. It is rare, I think, for them to intercede in someone’s life. My practice has therefore turned more to veneration of the ancestors. Still, when I have something big in my life I make offerings to Wóden and Fríge. Sometimes they answer and sometimes they do not. This has not changed my relationship with them. I know I am the one responsible for my life, and I should not expect help from anyone. The gods and goddesses, nor the ancestors are at my beck and call. If anything it is the other way around. I am there to serve them. I really cannot offer any advice on following Wóden. The only thing I can say is that you should acknowledge Fríge as well. And expect to be taught personal responsibility. The gods, Wóden especially only help those that help themselves. You cannot expect things to be handed to you on a silver platter.